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The Art of Setting a New Year's Resolution
HAPPY NEW YEAR! HERE ARE A FEW TOOLS TO BETTER UNDERSTAND THE ART OF SETTING RESOLUTIONS FOR THE NEW YEAR:
1) Know the difference between goals vs resolutions - Resolutions are firm, sometimes unrealistic, decisions made that enable people to believe they must follow them, which may cause a lot of stress. Goals are more realistic choices set in a continuum and can be edited or changed as you wish throughout your year.
2) Start with a desire/hope/wish to spark motivation - Don't take or spend to much time deciding; make a simple choice you can begin to act on. Perhaps a tradition?
3) Make realistic and mindful choices - Celebrate and do it for you. Self-care! You don't have to prove ANYTHING to ANYONE. Be mindful of what you want to achieve/accomplish, not what anyone told you you should do or be.
4) Set manageable goals - Set goals that are still challenging and specific to follow, rather than too broad or easy. It's okay to start slow. Set mini goals throughout the year, instead of larger goals at the beginning of the year. Be your best fan and challenge your self-sabotaging thoughts/beliefs.
5) Find a buddy - YOU ARE NOT ALONE, even if you are head-strong and independent. Others are working towards achieving their goals as well. Listening and supporting can be a goal in and of itself. It's always great to feel more connected with friends, family, peers, etc.
6) Accept what you can't control - We are not superwomen/men; WE ARE HUMAN and, at times, are not able to accomplish some of what we set out to do. Don't be hard on yourself because this is realistic and inevitable. It does NOT mean you're a failure and can't do anything right or that you have more work to do next year and you're hopeless. We can try to look at things different and see what we CAN do.
Try "remembulations." Fill a jar or box up with items that remind you of the things you have accomplished throughout the year, each time they happen. At the end of the year, reflect on each item and celebrate. You can also keep a journal and write a positive statement about yourself for each event or moment. Increase positive self-talk and allow yourself to feel a sense of accomplishment and pride - no matter how big or small, silly or personal. All that matters is that it's yours!
7) Remember - YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH, even if things don't work out or you choose not to look into goals this year. Just as in #6, remember that this isn't about a "new year's resolution" to resolve or change/fix an issue or problem. It's about looking at things differently and seeing what healthy choices we can continue to build on, rather than thinking or believing we need change or fixing. We all have inner strength and I believe in remaining hopeful, by focusing on our positives and building on our strengths.
HAPPY NEW YEAR AGAIN!,